I was randomly listening to some Teddy Pendergrass "When Somebody Loves You Back" and it came to the part at the end where he says "not 70/30 not 60/40 talking bout a 50/50 love". It really got me thinking.
Are relationships nowadays really 50/50 and should they be? Let me know what you think!!!
50/50 Tiffany...wth kinda ? is that? Thats like asking a woman,"hey excuse me miss but do u have breasts? lol. Relationships should always be half n half equals a whole,not 1 v 1.Thats y so many of these so called relationships r doomed now.It shouldnt be,"Baby i wash dishes only on Mon Wed n Fri." No both parties need to hit them dishes whenever they c em.
ReplyDeleteI think the percentages vary for different aspects of the relationship at different periods in the relationship.
ReplyDeleteWhat I mean: at one point or another, one party will fall short somehow. So, naturally the other party will supply whatever extra emotional/financial/etc support is necessary for that period. It would be crazy for a woman making 20k to pay half of the bills when her husband makes 80k. I believe however, the woman should make up the slack in another area, if possible.
To sum it up, the partners should compliment each other.
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I honestly don't know what that means.
personally, it's 100/100. What do the young folks say? keep it 100!
being in a relationship is hard ass work. I can't see myself or my wife giving 50%... that makes no sense...
I love the commentary on this one. I was curious about this whole 50/50 thing and I agree that it should not be predetermined....you compliment each other, help each other, work together and most important KEEP IT 100!
ReplyDeleteI think the problem in most relationships that are unsuccessful one party is putting in way more work/effort than the other and there isn't that feeling of balance.
If you are keeping score, then you are always going to be disappointed! Each person has a different perspective. I feel that sometimes I am putting in much more effort in my marriage. If you ask my husband, he will say he is putting in a lot more of effort! This becomes more apparent when children are in the picture!
ReplyDeleteFor a relationship to succeed- you give because you want to and it is a fulfilling endeavor. However, one person may be putting in more effort or have the personality to be a giver. Even the giver, gets too tired and feels taken advantage of if she doesn't get what she needs in the relationship.
What's the answer? Stop tallying the numbers- ask yourself, "Do I feel fulfilled in my relationship?" If the answer is yes- be happy! If the answer is no- you need to have a conversation about what you need in the relationship to feel your needs get fulfilled.
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